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Public Speaking and Panic Attacks
by Joe Barry
It is often observed that many people's top ranking fear is not death but having
to speak in public. The joke is that these people would rather be lying in the
casket at the funeral than giving the eulogy. Public speaking for people who
suffer from panic attacks or general anxiety often becomes a major source of
worry weeks or even months before the speaking event is to occur.
These speaking engagements do not necessarily have to be the traditional on a
podium events but can be as simple as an office meeting where the individual is
expected to express an opinion or give verbal feedback. The fear of public
speaking and panic attacks in this case centers on having an attack while
speaking. The individual fears being incapacitated by the anxiety and hence
unable to complete what he or she is saying. The person imagines fleeing the
spotlight and having to make all kinds of excuses later for their undignified
departure out the office window.
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This differs slightly from the majority of people who fear public speaking
because their fear tends to revolve around going blank while speaking or feeling
uncomfortable under the spotlight of their peers. The jitters or nerves of
speaking in public are of course a problem for this group as well, but they are
unfamiliar with that debilitating threat which is the panic attack, as they most
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So how should a person with an anxiety issue tackle public speaking?
Stage one is accepting that all these bizarre and quite frankly unnerving
sensations are not going to go away overnight. In fact, you are not even going
to concern yourself with getting rid of them for your next talk. When they
arrive during a speech/meeting, you are going to approach them in a new manner.
What we need to do is build your confidence back to where it used to be before
any of these sensations ever occurred. This time you will approach it in a
unique, empowering manner, allowing you to feel your confidence again. It is
said that most of the top speakers are riddled with anxiety before speaking, but
they somehow use this nervousness to enhance their speech. I am going to show
you exactly how to do this, although I know that right now if you suffer from
public speaking and panic attacks you may find it difficult to believe you can
ever overcome it.
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My first point is this and it is important. The average healthy person can
experience an extreme array of anxiety and very uncomfortable sensations while
giving a speech and is in no danger of ever losing control, or even appearing
slightly anxious to the audience. No matter how tough it gets, you will always
finish your piece, even if at the outset it feels very uncomfortable to go on.
You will not become incapacitated in any way.
The real breakthrough for if you suffer from public speaking and panic
attacks happens when you fully believe that you are not in danger and that the
sensations will pass.
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'I realize you (the anxiety) hold no threat over me.'
What keeps a panic attack coming again and again is the fear of the
fearâ€"the fear that the next one will really knock your socks off and you feel
you were lucky to have made it past the last one unscathed. As they were so
unnerving and scary, it is your confidence that has been damaged by previous
anxiety episodes. Once you fully understand you are not under any threat, then
you can have a new response to the anxiety as it arises while speaking.
Defeating public speaking and panic attacks...
There is always a turning point when a person moves from general anxiety into
a panic attack, and that happens with public speaking when you think to
yourself:
"I won't be able to handle this in front of these people."
That split second of self-doubt leads to a rush of adrenaline, and the
extreme anxiety arrives in a wave like format. If, however, when you feel the
initial anxiety and you react with confidence that this is not a threat to you,
you will move out of the anxiety rapidly. Using this new approach is a powerful
ally because it means it is okay to feel scared and feel the anxiety when
speaking that is fine; you are going to feel it and move with and through the
sensations in your body and out the other side. Because he or she is feeling
very anxious, often before the talk has begun, that person may feel they have
already let themselves down. Now, you can relax on that point. It is perfectly
natural to feel the anxiety. Take for example the worst of the sensations you
have ever experienced in this situation be it general unease to loss of breath.
You will have an initial automatic reaction that says:
'Danger I'm going to have an episode of anxiety here and I really can't
afford that to happen.'
At this point most people react to that idea and confirm it must be true
because of all of the unusual feelings they are experiencing. This is where your
thinking can lead you down a train of thought that creates a cycle of anxiety
that produces a negative impact on your overall presenting skills.
So let that initial oh dear, not now thought pass by, and follow it up
immediately with the attitude of:
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'There you are Ive been wondering when you would arrive. Ive been expecting
you to show up by the way, I am not in the least threatened by any of the
strange sensations you are creating I am completely safe here.'
The key to controlling your fear of public speaking and panic attacks is that
instead of pushing the emotional energy and excitement down into your stomach,
you are moving out through it. Your body is in a slightly excited state, exactly
as it should be while giving a speech, so release that energy in your
self-expression. Push it out through your presentation not down into your
stomach. You push it out by expressing yourself more forcefully. In this way you
turn the anxiety to your advantage by using it to deliver a speech where you
come across more alive, energetic and in the present moment. When you notice the
anxiety drop as it does when you willingly move into it. Fire a quick thought
off when you get a momentary break (as I am sure you have between pieces),
asking it for more. You want more of its intense feelings as you are interested
in them and are absolutely not threatened by them.
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It seems like a lot of things to be thinking about while talking to a group
of people, but it is not really. You'd be amazed how many different non-related
thoughts you can have while speaking. This approach is about adopting a new
attitude of confidence to what you might have deemed a serious threat up until
now. This tactic will truly help you with fear of public speaking and panic
attacks you have associated with them.
If your predominant fear of the speaking engagement is driven by a feeling of
being trapped, then I would suggest factoring in some mental releases that can
be prepared before the event. For example, some meetings/speeches allow for you
to turn the attention back to the room to get feedback etc. from the group.
If possible, you might want to prepare such opportunities in your own mind
before the engagements. This is not to say you have to ever use them, but people
in this situation often remark that just having small opportunities where
attention can be diverted for the briefest of moments can make the task seem
less daunting. It my even be something as simple as having people introduce
themselves or opening the floor to questions. I realize these diversions are not
always possible and depend on the situation, but anything you can factor in that
makes you feel less trapped or under the spotlight is worth the effort and can
help alleviate fear of public speaking and panic attacks.
About the Author
Joe Barry is an international panic disorder coach. His informative site on
all issues related to panic and anxiety attacks can be found here:
http://www.panicportal.com
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