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One of the constant themes about their struggle with social
anxiety was the battle to get out of their own minds in social situations. They talked about how they would fight as
their minds would create possible negative outcomes and insecurities. Their thoughts could sometimes paralyze them
into
This same habit of thinking too much affects our ability to
perform well under pressure. Here are a
few ways to get out of your own head and into the moment.
1. Be aware-Use your
senses to stay aware of your surroundings.
Learn to take in everything that you see, hear, touch, and smell. We are able to hear all the time but
listening is a conscious thing.
2. Be open- Let
those things that your senses are taking in affect you. Do let them overwhelm you but allow them touch you in some way. Be open to what is around you and how they
might help you handle your situation.
3. React accordingly-Once
you are aware of your surrounding and your senses are on high alert, react
accordingly. Reacting to a situation is
a sign that you are in that moment not in your head.
| “The first requisite
for success is to develop the ability to focus and apply your mental and
physical energies to the problem at hand“ – Thomas Edison |
Being able to stay focused is a highly effective skill to have in any situation
but comes in especially handy in pressure situations. Once you are able to get and stay out of your
own head, staying focused to the task at hand will become much easier. I one of my next posts will be Stay Focused. I
will go into detail the most effective ways to stay focused in different
scenarios. For now, here are some ways
to stay focused under while under pressure.
1. Block out any other
distractions-One of the fist things you may have learned in 2nd
grade was how to clear your desk when you had to do class work. I always liked to keep everything in arms
reach of me so my desk top was covered with markers, crayons, and drawings of
ninjas. I was perfectly fine with my
mess but I was always told to clean my desk before working. Turns out the teachers knew what they were
talking about.
In most situations, the best way to focus is to block out
all distractions. In pressure
situations, blocking out distractions is even more important and more
difficult. The best way to block out
distractions is to remove them. If there
is anything that may divert your attention, it has to go. With some practice,
you will become better at first identifying the distractions and then learning
to cancel them out. In the event you are
not able to remove the distraction, follow the next two steps
2. Goal!!- Ultimately,
focus is just zeroing in on a goal so that the target is clear. During high pressure situations, the goal may
become blurry due to the demand required.
Your goal should be clearly defined before the pressure situation.
3. Go-to Statement- At
certain times, your brain is not your friend.
It will sometimes entertain thoughts of failure and quitting when you
are facing adversity. Have a statement
or affirmation that you can repeat that will help your mind refocus when your
thoughts begin to stray in the wrong direction.
One of my favorite examples of this is in the movie Men of
Honor. When Carl Brasher (Cuba Gooding
Jr.) was training to be a Navy Diver, one of his tests was to put together a
flange while under water. While he was
at the bottom of an ice cold lake for hours, he kept repeating to himself, “My
name is Carl Brasher, I am a navy diver.” The go-to statement should reaffirm and remind
us of our goal all the while keeping us focused.
| “If you stay ready
you never have to get ready.” -Will Smith |
Create Déjà
Creating déjà means preparing yourself for a future pressure situation so that
you can perform better. If you are an athlete, then your
workouts and practices should be a simulation of the game. I had a psychology professor
in college that offered her students the opportunity to come in the night
before a exam and study at the desk where they were going to be taking the
test. She knew that studying in the same way, and atmosphere where the actual
test would take place, would relieve some stress because you would be familiar
with environment and circumstance.
In his extraordinary book Talent Is Overrated, Geoff Colvin presents the idea
of deliberate practice. Deliberate practice is the way of preparing with
the intention of improving a specific skill.
In the book he states, “The great performers isolate remarkably specific
aspects of what they do and focus on just those things until they're improved;
then it's on to the next aspect”.
Colvin uses the example that the way Tiger Woods practices his swing is
much different than your weekend golfer. While your average golfer will hit a ball,
observe the results, then make any adjustment for the next swing, Woods
practices with the intention of perfecting one part of his swing or game.
This makes perfect sense to me. I have been applying this technique for the
past several years to some of my projects.
Not only do you have the subconscious confidence of being able to
accomplish the task because you’ve been there before, but you are also able to
calm down and breathe easier too.
Sooner
or later you will be in a pressure situation.
If you are unable to handle it correctly, it may cost you a promotion,
job, or an opportunity to experience new things and meet new people. Practice these techniques and you will soon
begin to see how well you can perform under pressure.
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